Grow Beyond Your Fear

frHave you ever reached a point in your life when you thought to yourself, “There’s got to be more in life for me”? Have you ever felt like there was more to your life at a particular moment or that you were supposed to be at a certain level in a certain area of your life? The truth is that such moments have the potential to give you an opportunity to grow. However, if you do not pay close attention to them you will miss the opportunity to increase and grow.

OBSTACLES: Momentary challenges

ddddAt any moment when you feel like there is more to who, what, or where you are, you may be experiencing obstacles that seem to hold you back. It may even feel as if there is a cloud of limitation hanging over you, preventing you from moving forward. I want to encourage you not to take the bait; it’s a trap to force you to set a limit for yourself. These obstacles could be things that you have to deal with on a daily basis, but it’s your choice whether to use them to your advantage or allow them to take advantage of you.ob

Obstacles will likely incite fear inside of you, causing you to cave in and eventually stop dead in your tracks. And failure to take your limits off, will stunt your progress and increase in life.

COMFORT ZONES: Bad conditions for growth

It is not all the time that obstacles are holding you back. You might have developed the strength to conquer them, but perhaps, in your case, it is a sense of comfortableness, where you sindexay to yourself, “I think I am doing well, so I will just coast and float here for a little while longer.” Anytime you take on this kind of attitude, your chance to grow and increase is suppressed, and a limit is set for how far you can go in life. Hardly anything grows in comfort zones. Those who cannot leave their comfort zone will never be able to grow to their fullest or maximum potential.

Our comfort zones set the limit for our lives. They box us in and keep us in a particular spot for the longest time until we find the grit to push ourselves out of them. So how well are you willing to grow beyond the limit?

So the question you must answer is how well you are willing to grow beyond the limit?

YOUR PERSPECTIVE: How you perceive what you see

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Your point of view – how you perceive what you see – matters a lot. Obstacles may be momentary challenges, but they are also opportunities for growth and increase. But unless you see them that way, you will always be at a disadvantage. So in bringing these together, you can either view your obstacles as opportunities or limitations and when you see them as opportunities, they will motivate you to move out of your comfort zone, beyond your self-limitation and then you can conquer your fears.

Also, it is a fact that the more shots that you take, the more likely you are to hit the target; because, at every other try, you are able to make little changes, fine adjustments, before you try again. These little changes gravitate towards eventually hitting the target.

A friend once posed this question to me: “How do you eat an elephant?” To which he answered: “One piece at a time.” In other words, it is important to start with the lower risk scenarios and experiment with them. Take those little shots, those small chances and let them get you to a point where you will start taking on bigger risks. It is okay, even better, for you to try and fail, than to fear and not try at all, because you will always miss 100% of the shots you fail to take! Don’t be afraid to take risks.

CONCLUSION

In closing, whenever you find an opportunity for growth and increase, take your time to count the cost, plan, and then attack. Take your time but don’t wait too long to take your chances because opportunities are always fleeting (hence, they are called opportunities). At the end of the day, even if you fail at your attempts, you can still hold your head up high knowing that, at least, you gave it a shot. There is no harm in trying.

At the end of the day, even if you fail at your attempts, you can still hold your head up high knowing that, at least, you gave it a shot. There is no harm in trying. In fact, the more you try, the more you learn to take smarter and better risks, which would help you grow beyond your limitations and fear. So whether your fight is against obstacles or comfort zones, it is how you view them that matters, because to grow beyond your fear, you will have to face them squarely.

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The Blunder Everyone, Including You, Make About Success: Success Is Not An Event

Add in that exceptional ingredient of your spirit – endurance or perseverance- and you are manifesting within the procedure for success to reach your objectives. If you prefer to learn how to be effective, the very first place to begin is to understand what true success is and what true success is not. To begin, you need to understand that success, exactly like poverty, is a mind-set.ommn


Success, in financial provisions, is a typical kind of notion, not only in the US, but also all over the world. Many would say that it is a means to achieve a totally pleasurable state, but in all honesty, success could be very difficult to quantify, because it is a very personal thing- different from one person to another.

The journey of succeeding is not necessarily about money; money is merely the catalyst to experience your passion. Success requires time to observe where to begin. The truth is that you are exactly where you are in life for a reason, and perhaps for some choices that you have made. Ultimately, it is the way you deal with life on the way, in the process, that is mostly significant.

INEVITABILITY OF MISTAKES


Everywhere in everyday living, the genuine question is not so much that which we gain, but that which we do, because whether we gain or lose is a reflection of what we do, first, and then how we do it.1234

If you are a human being, you are likely to earn mistake. If you fret about mistakes, you are making a fundamental error in thinking, because most often than not, mistakes are a pathway to success. They are also viable proofs that you are at the least trying, and not just lying dormant, waiting for rainy days before you start gathering your seeds together to sow. As a matter of fact, in every triumph there’s a great deal of trying. Therefore, mistake is not failure!

FAILING FORWARD


Many men and women think failure is final or the close of the world. It isn’t! Most people overestimate what they are able to do in a brief time period and underestimate what they are able to do over the long run. However, successful individuals learn to keep moving despite the challenges, mistakes, or failures.

processThe following point that I am about to communicate would have been a great starting sentence; however, it fits perfectly with this idea of failing forward. The idea of considering excellence at the inception of any undertaking is not second base at all, but a very essential element for success in any given area of life. When you start working on an undertaking, it is important to always pursue excellence, because if you are able to do so, you will put yourself in a far better place to fail forward. And the good thing is that anybody can make it through failure.

There is but one approach to guarantee you won’t ever fail, and that is to never try anything.

Although our aim may be to succeed, yet success in itself is not just a destination or event but a process, which requires a good amount of patience without which excellence cannot be achieved.

THE NECESSITY OF POSITIVITY


Inherent in every problem is a solution. But when you begin telling yourself that you will never hit your target or that you do not have what it takes, you are setting yourself up for failure.A photo by Morgan Sessions. unsplash.com/photos/YIN4xUBaqnk

You see, negativity has become the most discouraging challenge of all, but if you are able to observe the negatives in your life for what they are, you will understand that it is the whole opposite of what is occurring in reality! You have to start something.

THE NECESSITY OF SPECIFICITY


indexLet’s take for example reading for an exam. Going over a reading will not store that information in a manner that gives you the ability to retrieve the information later. Monitoring learning and taking time to check your wisdom and recall are important ways that you may assess if you are well-prepared for an exam or will need to devote extra time studying. You may call it trial and error, I call it the necessity of specificity. Since you know what you want, or maybe you think you know what you want, it is beneficial to check what you are doing regularly to see how well you are doing and/or whether your method is working or not.

No quantity of reading or memorizing will cause you to get successful in living! That is the application side of learning or gathering information. You have to put it into practice. There is truly no way to attain the success you want if you do not have a specific, detailed, clear vision of the way that it ought to go.

#1 KEY TO SUCCESS


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The #1 key to success is a fundamental adjustment in mental and psychological perception. It is not just about knowing or learning, it is about doing. That is, taking action. So the #1 key to success is to master your capability to begin, to take step one. Understand that stress develops if we are attempting to master many things all at one time. Mastering the capability to begin will significantly increase your rate of success by 25%. Now that is a big jump!

Many people overlook the fact that success is not an event, but a process. A lot of people wish to accomplish what other successful men and women have in everyday living. Well, the best place to start is to master the capability to begin. Remember that there is only one approach to guarantee you won’t ever fail, and that is to never try anything.

SUCCESS IS A PROCESS


A photo by Jake Hills. unsplash.com/photos/bt-Sc22W-BESuccess has its price tag and, from the beginning, the selling price is clear: hard work and perseverance. Success is a process and the process will differ for each of us, bringing unique challenges and various joys along the way. Endeavor to enjoy the joys as they come, because you will have many challenges on the way as well to endure.

Success demands persistence, which seems like the combination of hard work and perseverance, and truly it is. Persistence is the ability to never give up in the face of hardship or failure. Meanwhile, not one of the secrets of succeeding will work for you if you do not act.

Specificity + Positivity – Negativity = Moving Forward
Hard work + Perseverance = Persistence + Patience = Success

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Always Wondered Why God Seldom Answer Instantly. Now I Know!

For so long I wondered why God does not answer my petitions instantly at all times, but in the course of time I have come to understand the reason.

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I had prayed so desperately on multiple occasions for various things and it would seem as if God had taken a vacation or He was busy attending to other things and not even thinking about me; however, I realized that in the process of going into His presence every time, my heart was continually worked upon and my desires are put in check. Sometimes it would feel like a spiritual workout and during these moments my prayer life and spiritual sensitivity was significantly heightened.

kffuyfkWhat usually happens is that many months later, after I have completely forgotten about my desperate prayers, I would notice that out of the blue those prayers are being answered in magnificent ways that often blow my socks off (and miraculously leave my shoes untouched)! Okay, maybe not exactly like that, but I’m always in awe of the ways God eventually responds to my prayers and answers them in the end. These have happened not twice or thrice, but I can recall more than 10 times in the past 7 years, and I am beginning to see the patterns form clearer and clearer. And it has changed my prayer life significantly.

It is true that in retrospect we see everything with such perfect view. Looking back, I can see how God had not always answered all my prayers and outcries instantly; although, sometimes He does, but most times He makes me wait a full circle before answering them. I have learned a few things in these moments of waiting.

First, I get the chance to listen to my heart and hear my deepest longings.

downloadWhile I made my petitions and wait for them to be answered, those waiting moments give me the opportunity to evaluate them with the word of God and decide if what I am praying for really has any basis in His word. While evaluating, I either have a change of heart or cry out even stronger once I realized that my yearning aligns with a sincere need at that moment. These are more like heart-check moments for me, in which I am able to look inwardly and see where those desires are stemming from, whether out of my selfish, lustful desires; or selfless, loving desire and a sincere heart. I am also able to determine whether my desires have any eternal value whatsoever or not.

Second, it strengthens my faith, trust and dependency in and upon God.

During these moments, I come to realize that I cannot do much without God. And this has enabled me to see how much I need Him, and in essence, realize how much of myself I need to give to Him so He can take care of me and my needs. I have also realized that He requires all of me and if I am willing give myself totally to Him, He will take care of me. So I have learned to gradually and completely release myself to Him.1111 I have to say that it is not easy to give up control, but doing so is worth it. In fact, that is the best way to live a fulfilled life – giving up control on your life and letting God have it!

Third, I have learned a lot about patience and trust.

In the process of earnestly praying and waiting, my patience is enhanced and my trust is strengthened. I have learned that whatever God does or gives is perfect, and the only way we can receive anything in pure perfection from Him is through trusting Him and patiently waiting.

But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing (James 1:4).”

Only with patience can we have all our needs met with a lack for nothing. The reward of patience is perfection and completion.


In line with all that, these following scriptures are noteworthy:
1.Trust in the Lord with all your heart (Proverbs 3:5-6)
2.Don’t give up on your dreams; delay is not denial (Habakkuk 2:2-3)
3.Earnest prayers always get answered (James 5:6)
4.God hears your outcries and knows your deepest yearnings (Psalm 34:15)
5.Pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

I hope you get blessed meditating and praying with above scriptures.

Have you ever been in a situation where you met someone but you never thought anything would happen between both of you simply because that person was not your type, but something actually did happen eventually?

Or perhaps, the issue was that you could not just imagine yourself being with that person for one reason or the other; however, before you even knew it, things escalated super quickly from being strangers to lovers, and you fell madly in love with that person?

You enjoyed a brief season of “happily ever after,” and all of a sudden, after sometime, everything went crashing down!

Don’t get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing! However, I implore you to carefully and objectively read the story below and share your thoughts. What went wrong? How could something seemingly genuine and real end up so badly?


My Heart Was Broken & I Still Don’t Know Why


In 2003, when I was 23, I met this wonderful girl! She was 16 at the time, and we met through the internet. I never thought about a relationship, both she and I just went through a breakup, and we could help each other a lot.

We both had a lot of time, and developed friendship with each other. To the point that I would not leave the house without sending her a message first, and the first thing I’d do when I got back home was to see if she wrote me.

We spent hours writing each other, every day, for one year long, before we decided that perhaps there was more than just friendship blooming here…So I decided to visit her, and spend 2 weeks with her. She was very insecure, but it took me only 30 minutes to get accustomed to seeing her in real life, and we hit it off, spending 2 weeks, 24/7 with each other! I didn’t matter that we were poor, had no car, and had no place to go. We had each other!

In the next 3 years I was going back and forth between Miami and my home country; and in the last year, my company got sold off to China, for 3Bn Euros leaving them to pay me a 9k Euro bonus. As I received it, I made the jump and married her, and we where happily married for 6.5 years.

We went on to build our lives, became wealthier, had our own cars, and house, and suddenly things changed. She wanted a divorce, out of nowhere! I loved her so much and even agreed on the separation; to give her what she wanted. But unlike what I thought, she did not return after a while; but instead hardened her heart to not get together anymore with me.broken-heart-boy-put604desi49

I was heart broken. I know for sure that I was a good husband to her. We had our issues, but she had lost interest over time. Marriage changes people, that’s for sure!

It’s been 6 months since she separated, and every now and then I still feel like going mad! I understand why people resort to alcohol, get drunk and become violent! It’s not the man’s fault that he has to deal with all the anger, it’s actually the woman’s fault!

The woman may not know it, but she causes so much problems by following her own path; same when she would commit adultery! And I also understand why men would commit suicide too! I’ve been struggling with that A LOT too!images

It’s not as much as my life falling apart, but the fact that there’s no longer the will to live; and nothing soothes me anymore. The pain is intense, the moments of loneliness are long, and the thoughts (as to why? could it have been avoided? Can we get back together again? Will God deal with this, because I can’t?) are never ending.

And from time to time the pain is so hard that tears roll down my cheeks, and I don’t understand why the Lord allows this to happen! It’s in His power to bring her back, and if not her, then maybe He can find me someone to can continue my life with!

Why does it have to take so long? Why can’t I find one person that is attracted to me, or if she is, why can’t I feel attraction for her? Why aren’t there more spiritual women out there? Spirit filled, God loving women?


What a very sad story! It ended with a lot of questions, and honestly, anyone who has ever gone through similar situation would no doubt have similar questions in their minds. The pain of breakups is quite severe and it’s nothing to write home about. I realize that it would sound very cliche to say that God can mend broken hearts and heal those who are hurting, but that is the sincere truth because I have experienced something similar, it was quite heart-wrenching and it was no fun!

I wrote a poem about it: Woes of a Brokenhearted

I would like to get some honest feedback on the questions below, because these questions might just be what many people have in mind and your feedback may just be the answers they need:

  1. Is there any possibility that this tragedy could have been avoided? If yes, then how?
  2. What would be the possible explanation for the sudden change of heart of his ex-wife?

Thanks in advance!

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CountDown: The Rapture of the Saints pt4 & pt5!

Judging from all contemporary global occurrences such as the abomination of mass killings of helpless unborn babies (abortion), legalization of same sex marriage, the movement of the radical Islamic sects (ISIS), whose mission is to wage jihad and take over the world; the persecution of Christians, the economic tumults, the exit of Britain from the EU, among many other historical events that are happening simultaneously all over the world, we can see signs that the end of the world is near and the second coming of Christ is imminent.index

No doubt, there will be scores of people who would be so quick to throw away this idea of the imminent return of Christ and the end of the world due to the fact that this same story has been circulating for many centuries now, yet, it has not happened. However, there are careful considerations from the Bible, in addition to the fact that many people these days are already seeing visions and having dreams about it, that points to the imminence of this particular events.

This week marks the end of this series of the topic of things that would happen before, during and after the rapture takes place. The fourth and fifth parts of the series are covered in this concluding post.

THE RAPTURE OF THE SAINTS (CHURCH) – PART 4

Those who will be judged at the Judgment Seat Of Christ would be true believers. The judgment is not unto condemnation, but it is to appraise the believers’ works for eternal rewards. Those who will appear before the Judgment Seat of Christ cannot be condemned because they are the Bride of Christ (enraptured saints). When the true believers’ works are tested with fire, some works will remain and become purer like gold; while the works of the others when tested with fire will be consumed like wood and hay and turn to coal or ashes. But, they would be saved; 1 Corinthians 3:12-15:

If anyone builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person’s work. If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping through the flames.

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There will be Eternal Rewards for the believers whose works are like gold that becomes purer when tested with fire, would receive:

Crown of Life

Revelation 2:10:
Fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer: behold, the devil shall cast some of you into prison, that ye may be tried; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.

James 1:12:
Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

Incorruptible Crown

1 Corinthians 9:24-25:
Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain. And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible.

Crown of Rejoicing

1 Thessalonians 2:19:
For what is our hope, or joy, or crown of rejoicing? Is it not even you in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at His coming?

Crown of Glory

1 Peter 5:4:
and when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that does not fade away.

Crown of Righteousness

2 Timothy 4:8:
Finally, there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing.

And other Eternal Rewards!

(e) There will be celebrations (the marriage feast of the lamb).
We shall celebrate and eat with our Lord Jesus Christ (the Bridegroom). The Marriage Feast of the Lamb would happen after the union between Christ (the Bridegroom) and the spotless Church (the Bride of Christ). (Refer to Revelation 19:5-10; Ephesians 5:27; Matthew 22:1-14; Matthew 25:1-13).

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THE RAPTURE OF THE SAINTS (CHURCH) – PART 5

Its importance is to assemble the saints for the feast with Christ; to present the justified, that is, the saints of all ages to God, The Father, and fulfill their main eternal purpose; to wipe away tears from the faces of the saints; to take away the saints from the earth before the activities of the anti-Christ and the great tribulation.

(f)We shall be with Christ.
We shall be with Lord Jesus Christ for seven years. It will be beginning of staying with Him for eternity; 1 Thessalonians 4:17 says

Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the LORD in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.

While we are with the Lord Jesus Christ, the world will be going through a period of “Great Tribulation“.

As Chaos fills the earth and things are getting worse, we need to be discerning of the times and seasons that we are living in. It is therefore very important for us as believers, to learn of the second coming of Our Lord Jesus Christ, so we can live in the light of His coming. Time is running out and counting down for the return of king Jesus! And the questions still stands: Are you ready?!

In conclusion, here are the questions for you and me to answer:
1.Are you totally ready for the rapture of the saints?
2.Are you adequately prepared for the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ?
3.Do you watch and pray always?
4.Do you wash your garment of righteousness daily by ensuring that you’re not having unconfessed sins or unsurrendered areas in your life.

If you have not known Jesus Christ intimately (stubbornly unsaved), today is the day of your salvation, accept Him as your Lord and personal Savior now! If you have backslid, now is the time to re-dedicate your life to God! The next moment may be too late for you!

COUNTDOWN: The Rapture of the Saints pt2 & pt3!

Judging from all contemporary global occurrences such as the abomination of mass killings of helpless unborn babies (abortion), legalization of same sex marriage, the movement of the radical Islamic sects (ISIS), whose mission is to wage jihad and take over the world; the persecution of Christians, the economic tumults, the exit of Britain from the EU, among many other historical events that are happening simultaneously all over the world, we can see signs that the end of the world is near and the second coming of Christ is imminent.index

No doubt, there will be scores of people who would be so quick to throw away this idea of the imminent return of Christ and the end of the world due to the fact that this same story has been circulating for many centuries now, yet, it has not happened. However, there are careful considerations from the Bible, in addition to the fact that many people these days are already seeing visions and having dreams about it, that points to the imminence of this particular events.

Last week we started this series on the topic of things that would happen before, during and after the rapture takes place. This week’s post contains both part 2 and 3:

THE RAPTURE OF THE SAINTS (CHURCH) – PART 2
(b) The genuine Christians still alive shall be transformed

1 Corinthians 15:51-52 says “Behold, I tell you a mystery: We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.

This change has to do with transformation of the true believers’ bodies into resurrected, glorious, incorruptible and immortal bodies.

1 Corinthians 15:53-54 says “For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. So when this corruptible has put on incorruption, and this mortal has put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written: “Death is swallowed up in victory.“”

Hallelujah!! Glory be to Almighty God in the highest!!! Our Lord reigns forever!! Amen!!!

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At Rapture, “death” will be finally defeated by our Lord; because our Lord possesses the key of death and hades. It will be a great Victory for us saints. Whoever is not heavenly minded or conscious of the times and season we are in, be it Christians who are careless, disobedient, or unfaithful, would not hear or perceive the sound of the trumpet of God; let alone be transformed and caught up during the Rapture.

(c) They shall be caught up.
1 Thessalonians 4:17-18 says “Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the LORD in the air. And thus we shall always be with the LORD. Therefore, comfort one another with these words.

Both the resurrected saints and the transformed saints shall be caught up to meet the Lord in the air.

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THE RAPTURE OF THE SAINTS (CHURCH) – PART 3

At Rapture, the force of gravity would be defeated by our Lord Jesus Christ once again; because both the resurrected saints and the transformed saints would fly or float up against the Gravitational Force (which will fail) on their way to meet the Lord in the sky. Our Lord Jesus Christ had similar experience when He ascended into Heaven before His disciples in Acts 1:9-11:

After he said this, he was taken up before their very eyes, and a cloud hid him from their sight. They were looking intently up into the sky as he was going, when suddenly two men dressed in white stood beside them. “Men of Galilee,” they said, “why do you stand here looking into the sky? This same Jesus, who has been taken from you into heaven, will come back in the same way you have seen him go into heaven.”

At Rapture, we will experience the complete or perfect salvation 1 Thessalonians 5:9:

For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ.

We will be rescued from the great tribulation coming upon this world 1 Thessalonians 1:9-10:

for they themselves report what kind of reception you gave us. They tell how you turned to God from idols to serve the living and true God, 10 and to wait for his Son from heaven, whom he raised from the dead—Jesus, who rescues us from the coming wrath.

There will also be great reunion between the Old Testament saints and the New Testament saints. We will be reunited with our saved, loved ones that have been dead, on that day alive in Christ. That is the reason Apostle Paul enlightens us that we should not sorrow over our saved, loved ones sleeping in Christ because there is going to be a reunion at Rapture. There will also be massive reception; Our Lord Jesus Christ will receive all of us unto Himself in the air, before we proceed to Heaven with Him.

(d) We shall receive the reward of all the works we did for God.
2 Corinthians 5:8-10 says

We are confident, yes, well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord. Therefore we make it our aim, whether present or absent, to be well pleasing to Him. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad.

At the Judgment Seat of Christ, the believers’ works will be tested; the words, thoughts, motives, and secrets will also be tested.

In conclusion, here are the questions for you and me to answer:
1.Are you totally ready for the rapture of the saints?
2.Are you adequately prepared for the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ?
3.Do you watch and pray always?
4.Do you wash your garment of righteousness daily by ensuring that you’re not having unconfessed sins or unsurrendered areas in your life.

If you have not known Jesus Christ intimately (stubbornly unsaved), today is the day of your salvation, accept Him as your Lord and personal Savior now! If you have backslid, now is the time to re-dedicate your life to God! The next moment may be too late for you!